I love that God has given you this assignment to help people reframe their painful experiences so that they may heal and so that others can see the Glory of God even in the most trying of circumstances.
I have been in a committed relationship for much of my adult life and for most of our relationship both pre and post-marriage we did not want to have children. We had several reasons for that stance but in hindsight, it was mostly because of fear because we both had experiences in our childhood that we could not bear the thought of our own child having a similar experience. We were proud of our decision not to pursue parenthood until I had a divine conversation with a coworker that painted a picture of life with and without children and for the first time I wanted to live my life as a parent. To my surprise my husband also was on board so together we visited doctors to ready ourselves to be parents. We thought it would be easy but we soon found out that for various medical reasons it would not be. In order to conceive, we would need the help of a fertility specialist. It was a long process, for someone that hated needless I endured weeks of daily blood work, self-injections, testing, prodding, surgery, etc. However, it was during this journey that at the time seemed so unfair that I first began to cry out to God. I would kneel at the side of my bed and cry playing Whitney Houston, "I love the Lord, He heard my cry...and pitied every groan.. long as I live.." I would look at the promises of God and claim them for my life that indeed I would be fruitful and multiply. I pressed into the presence of God for the first time for myself. Before I was even pregnant I trusted God to grant my petition so much so that I had a name already written for the baby girl to come. A name which means "God is my might". Eventually, I was able to hold my beautiful daughter in my arms only to realize that in this process that seemed so unfair I was able to build a relationship with God that I would not have otherwise. He carried me through this process and allowed me to know that not only does He see me and hear me.. but He is able to deliver me out of all of my troubles (Psalm 34.6). Sometimes God takes us the long way! Sure we could have been instantly healed and had our child "naturally" but through the process, I was able to meet and fall in love with a supernatural God.